Why the “Adventures” are so Valuable
Learning the skills provided in the “Adventures” will help a child deal with “Issues” that are occurring presently as well as teaching them to effectively cope with “Issues” that will occur in the future. As an adult, think about how different your life could be if you would have been able to learn effective skills to deal with these “Issues” when you were a child. You are able to use our Internet accessible, audio enhanced stories when teaching a child the coping skills to deal with particular “issues”.
Adventures of Cosmos Crow Topics
The stories of the Coping Skills series are more about teaching you how you handle your thinking about and your response to Bullying, Teasing and Ridicule than about “making them stop”.
There are certain social skills that make it possible for you to be more accepted, more successful and happier throughout your life. These social skills are behaviors, but they start with learning good “coping self-messages.”
Anxiety / Fear
These stories will help your child develop the ability to recognize their anxiety/fear and determine what they are telling themselves to generate it (typical anxiety and fear responses are cause by the unrealistic, irrational things we are thinking).
Anger/Demandingness… “That’s not fair”
Anger is often the result of ‘Demandingness’, which is caused by beliefs that contain the “ought” and “must” connotations. “You should want to do this with me.” “I ought to be able to do what I want to do when I want to do it.”
There is a phase often used when referring to someone who seems happy and satisfied with themselves and their life. They are said to “Happy within their own skin. This is really referring to their “coping self-talk”… the realistic, positive and effective things they tell themselves about themselves, others and life.
Manipulation comes in many forms, but it always relies on one thing… our participation in being manipulated. Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I knew that was wrong before I did it but he/she was making me feel so (guilty, foolish or afraid)?” Respect for other’s differences/Prejudice It almost seems as if there is a genetic predisposition for humans to feel uncomfortable around those who are different from us. Our prejudices also give us permission to be unkind and inconsiderate of others… behaviors that can become habitual and cause life problems.
Academic Success/Accepting Responsibility/Consequences
There are opportunities in childhood to learn skills that will be useful all your life. These are not the skills taught in schoolbooks and are often overlooked by a well-intentioned parent.
Transitions/Change/How to succeed
Life is constantly changing and as you know, we all fear change. Use our fables to introduce the consequences that occur when you fail to develop the coping skills to navigate life’s changes and encourage your child to use the “Good Thinking” Change Messages illustrated in the stories.
Our modern society has an epidemic…Wasting Time.These stories illustrate how lack of self-motivation and self-control contribute to our “time wasting.”
Limiting Ourselves… in school, work, relationships and our lives
The most important limiting factor in our life is our own thinking. If you say to yourself, “I can never learn this” you will not put out the effort necessary to succeed and will quit at the first difficulty. If you say to yourself, “Others will never like me” you will not try to learn the skills necessary to develop friendships since you will always be rejected.
Siblings always get along well with each other… right? Behaviors that can be annoying with a child can be exhausting with two or more children. These stories will help you with some of the more common “Sibling Issues.”
Single Parent Concerns
There are some issues that school counselors identified as more significant to some of the single parents they encounter. They specifically mentioned the discrepancies in rules and expectations in the different households. Another area is helping the single parent avoid the manipulation of children and other adults while ensuring that their children do not adopt these manipulative behaviors.
Pessimism… “The glass is always half empty”
Who really knows when pessimism as a significant “thinking style” begins? It can become a habit at a very young age and stay with us all our life. This will be a habit that will doom you to always seeing everything in your life as “not quite right.”
Character… “What is it and how do you get it?”
There is a lot of concern about a lack of character in our children and adults. The Coping Skills series teaches us the skills to develop “Character Self-Talk.” It may seem obvious but the qualities we associate with the word Character are the result of overriding our natural tendencies to be jealous, vengeful, demanding, inconsiderate and self-serving.